• STEP 23

    1 – Key Things to Help You Overcome Love Addiction

  • Workbook Recommendation

    Having watched this video I recommend you read the section starting with the chapter called “Love and Other Drugs” which you will find on pages 274 to 280.

    In here you will learn more about the role your brain chemistry and body’s hormones and chemicals play in how you feel, react and behave when in love.

    Importantly you will also learn what you can do to break free from your brain chemistry.

  • If there is any possible consolation in the tragedy of losing someone we love very much, it is the necessary hope that perhaps it was for the best.

    Paulo Coelho

  • 2 – Creating the Strategy For Positive Change

    • Differentiating fantasy from reality.
    • Working through deficient self-worth.
    • Discovering a way through rejection, insecurity, and abandonment.
    • Self value, self care, and the search for meaning and purpose.
    • How to overcome and survive love withdrawal and a painful separation.
    • Redirecting the craving for love to a significant new connection to yourself.
    • Self empowerment, self validation and knowing when love hurts to let go.
    • Building inner resources to avoid projecting onto others what you feel you lack in yourself.
    • Reversing self abandonment (putting the beloved before yourself).
    • Learning the difference between healthy love and insecure, anxious love.

    Now, and any time in the future you can reflect on this list and choosing the one that seems to stand out, you can find practical ways to put it into action. Remember it’s small steps that get you there.

    If for example you’ve chosen number 9, reversing self abandonment, then the next time there’s a decision about what to do, instead of thinking “what would they like to do”, allow yourself to think “what do I want to do”. When dressing, instead of “Would they like this outfit” think “I want to wear the clothes that make me feel good today”.